How can he just go marry someone else, Im so depressed?
July 10, 2010 by admin · Leave a Comment
I mean I am completely distraught.I was in tears when I found out. I am a 25 year old, smart beautiful girl that made some poor chioces in life but now learning from them. WHy didnt he change for me?? Despite the fact he was a liar and a cheater I still wouldve taken the steps to make it work for our son's sake… now even though he sees our son when he feel like it, I have to find another daddy so that my son doesn't go astray. My son is no longer important to him…all he cares about is his new wife and everything else in his life comes before my son. I am deeply hurt over this. How do I find the courage to move on?
he got very nasty with me after our split, tried to make cps cases on me just so he wouldnt have to pay child support. He rarely comes to see our son.
i guess its his life and he's free to do whatever he wants so I really shouldn't trip
I mean we were together for 4 years, this isnt some random dude i met…we were engaged but just didnt seal the deal like we should have
Answer:Well be glad you didn't seal the deal.. He doesn't seem like he was finished cheating/ running around on you. And you, as a mother can teach a valuable lesson to your son from this. You can teach him how to be a man.
Don't feel like you have to run out and get youself another "daddy" for your son. He has a daddy. Encourage his father to be active in your sons life. And for your sons sake accept the new wife. I'm in a similar situation so I can empathize. Y daughters father got married a few weeks ago. We are allgood friends so that was ok all around. I'd been off an on again withy boyfriend for 4 years now and we we're going real strong. We got I one big fight and he left me and my daughter. He's ready to settle down now and get married havesome kids. You know all I've wanted for the last 4 years. And he doesnt want it with me… I've been depressed all week. Hardly gettin out of bed and the one thing I'm realizing most of all is that people dont change. They just find other people who can better manage their moods and roll with the punches. More portantly with men it's timing. And it's all on their terms.
I know it hurts. But the bright side is you got you. You got your boy and you are a strong woman who is fully capable of making this work!!! Get out there an show em your strength!
Answer:Don't put up with a man who's not willing to change. If he changed for his new wife, then I guess he was just retarded in the fact he couldn't change for you! I think you should be happy for his new wife.. What if you had married him and he stayed that lying cheating man? You're much better off to find a better loving dad for your son. Sure he's the biological father but that doesn't mean crap if he doesn't even lover your son like he should. Don't be depressed over him! You finally have the opportunity to find a better man for you and your son. (don't you ever wonder if he cheats on his wife and lies? What a bad situation for her. You're the lucky one!)
Answer:I think it is time to go after that back child support.
Answer:dammn sounds like a similar boat i was in, was wit my ex for 4 and a half years, we lived together, then out of no where she starts partying (alot) we move out of the apt. and within couple of months she moves city living with some guy now.. only difference is we didnt have a kid…
… I think from what you say, (that he was a liar and a cheater) its best that he does split.. yeah i can see you trying to keep the fam together due to your son, but your son might be better off being raised by you and anyone that is willing to help you (fam and friends ) that have a good vibe/influence instead of someone like him. how old is your son by the way..? is better to be alone that bad accompanied.. i have.. had a girl best friend who was/is in the same situation your in…
in the end you have to see what would be best for you and your baby boy. it hurts i understand especially if he went off and did what he did.. but ask urself, is someone like that someone you really want to have in your life?
email me if anything please, and keep your head up. things will be ok. I promise you
forsakenenvy@gmail.com
vforvendetta_21@yahoo.com
Answer:He's not good father material apparently. Wish him well. A child can be raised properly in a one parent home. Get your tips from the expert Super Nanny, or check out Nanny 911.
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